Lesbian Domestic Violence

Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them: Battered Gay Men and Domestic Violence (Haworth Gay and Lesbian Studies)

Lesbian Domestic Violence — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 12:14:59 +0000

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Domestic violence in gay male relationships is the third largest health problem for gay men in America today. Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them breaks the silence surrounding gay male domestic violence and exposes this hidden yet prevalent and destructive problem. The authors paint a vivid picture of gay menâ€™s domestic violence, bringing its brutality to life by including personal narratives, written by one of the authors, by clearly defining what it is and what it is not through lists of violent acts and criminal code categories, and by thoroughly examining and analyzing the criminal, mental health, medical, political, and interpersonal issues involved. The authors boldly depart from the battered womenâ€™s literature by asserting that batterers have a diagnosable mental disorder, that battering is not gender based, and that much further criminalization of domestic violence is necessary.

Striving for victim advocacy, the book underscores the idea that gay menâ€™s domestic violence is totally unacceptable and is caused solely by individual abusive gay men who choose to batter. The book builds on and departs from what is known about domestic violence, with the authors challenging several fundamental premises in the literature, unabashedly identifying battering as a mental disorder. The authors explain that victims cannot stop their battering partners from battering and virtually all batterers choose to harm their partners in a premeditated fashion.

The authors provide practical steps and suggestions for victims who want to leave and stay away from their violent partners and for friends who want to help battered gay men. Chapters describe the scope of the problem and refute myths and misconceptions. There are several detailed theory chapters in which the authors explain why gay menâ€™s domestic violence occurs, who the batterers are, who the victims are at different stages of victimization, and how domestic violence can be stopped. A visionary, wide-ranging governmental and private plan of action is introduced, including lists of necessary laws and policies, as well as outlines of strong education, training, and advertising problems needed in various sectors of society. As a self-help book, Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them provides practical information on a never-before discussed topic. As a trainerâ€™s manual or teaching guide, it includes specific criteria for understanding the problem and for providing treatment.

Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them: Battered Gay Men and Domestic Violence (Haworth Gay and Lesbian Studies)

Help & support

Lesbian Domestic Violence — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 12:11:59 +0000

Help & support
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Boys on the Side

Lesbian Domestic Violence — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 12:09:59 +0000

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THREE WOMEN, A CLUB MUSICIAN, A DEMURE REAL ESTATE AGENT AND AFLAKY DRUG-DEALER’S GIRLFRIEND, MAKE A BREAK WITH THEIR PASTS AND FORM AN UNLIKELY FAMILY WHILE TRAVELING ACROSS THE COUNTRYTOGETHER.

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This female-bonding film takes your basic soap opera and twists it inside out. Although director Herbert Ross draws superb performances from his actresses, he occasionally wallows in that maudlin, Hollywood melodrama in which close-ups are crucial. Remember, this is the man who directed Steel Magnolias. However, Ross also does something you don’t expect: he makes you fall in love with his characters. Whoopi Goldberg is a down-on-her luck singer who hopes to start over in Los Angeles. Mary-Louise Parker is the realtor whose life is going nowhere. After Goldberg answers Parker’s ad in the paper for a companion to drive to LA, these two completely different women grudgingly find themselves emotionally involved. Drew Barrymore enters the picture on the first leg of the trip when Goldberg insists on visiting her. After battling with her drug-dealing boyfriend, the flighty, sexy Barrymore throws in with them. During their trek west, the women learn to take life as it lands on them while recognizing true friendship. The film is enlightened in that it accepts the complications and blurred family ties of the ’90s. At the heart of the story is the realization that people can expand past expected boundaries. The movie gels in other areas as well. The all-female soundtrack is powerful and works to underscore, not overpower, certain scenes. The same can be said of the supporting cast, specifically Anita Gillette and James Remar. –Rochelle O’Gorman

Boys on the Side

Homomonument Square

Lesbian Domestic Violence — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 11:57:59 +0000

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Lesbian Domestic Violence — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 20:20:59 +0000

Servants of Globalization: Women, Migration, and Domestic Work

Lesbian Domestic Violence — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 22:10:59 +0000

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Servants of Globalization is a poignant and often troubling study of migrant Filipina domestic workers who leave their own families behind to do the mothering and caretaking work of the global economy in countries throughout the world. It specifically focuses on the emergence of parallel lives among such workers in the cities of Rome and Los Angeles, two main destinations for Filipina migration.

The book is largely based on interviews with domestic workers, but the book also powerfully portrays the larger economic picture as domestic workers from developing countries increasingly come to perform the menial labor of the global economy. This is often done at great cost to the relations with their own split-apart families. The experiences of migrant Filipina domestic workers are also shown to entail a feeling of exclusion from their host society, a downward mobility from their professional jobs in the Philippines, and an encounter with both solidarity and competition from other migrant workers in their communities.

The author applies a new theoretical lens to the study of migration-the level of the subject, moving away from the two dominant theoretical models in migration literature, the macro and the intermediate. At the same time, she analyzes the three spatial terrains of the various institutions that migrant Filipina domestic workers inhabit-the local, the transnational, and the global. She draws upon the literature of international migration, sociology of the family, women’s work, and cultural studies to illustrate the reconfiguration of the family community and social identity in migration and globalization. The book shows how globalization not only propels the migration of Filipina domestic workers but also results in the formation of parallel realities among them in cities with greatly different contexts of reception.

Servants of Globalization: Women, Migration, and Domestic Work

Lesbian Domestic Violence — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 20:10:59 +0000

No More Secrets: Violence in Lesbian Relationships

Lesbian Domestic Violence — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 03:50:59 +0000

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Myths: Violence is a male biological trait. When women fight, no one gets seriously hurt. Lesbians don’t abuse their spouses.
The truth revealed in Janice Ristock’s groundbreaking book is that lesbian relationships sometimes do turn violent. Based on interviews with more than one hundred lesbians who have suffered abuse and seventy-five case workers, No More Secrets is the first in-depth account of this startling phenomenon.
Although one in four gay and lesbian couples are affected by domestic violence, the problem has remained hidden for several reasons. First is the fear of homophobic backlash should lesbian violence be acknowledged. More significantly, Ristock argues, the lesbian feminist culture has readily adopted the idea that men are more violent than women in order to validate lesbian relationships. Recognizing abuse among lesbians would undermine the cemented belief that domestic abuse is an expression of patriarchy and gender bias.
The definitive book on the subject, No More Secrets combines extensive research on the nature of lesbian battering with close-up analysis that will change our understanding of crimes of intimacy in heterosexual and homosexual couples alike. By giving voice to the victims, Ristock helps women to address violence by breaking silences, sharing secrets, and naming the forms of abuse.

No More Secrets: Violence in Lesbian Relationships

Lesbian Domestic Violence — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 20:00:59 +0000

What a gorgeous couple!

Lesbian Domestic Violence — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 13:50:59 +0000

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